This test is not a clinical diagnosis, but it helps to assess your situation objectively and identify warning signs (so-called “red flags”) that are often overlooked or rationalized.
Please read the following statements and answer honestly with “yes, this applies to me” or “this happens often.” Your answers are confidential and intended solely for your own analysis.
“Powder Keg” Feeling: I frequently alter my behavior, words, or even clothing to avoid triggering another person’s irritation.
Fear of Reaction: Before sharing news (even good news) or expressing an opinion, I mentally calculate whether it might cause an outburst of anger.
Loss of Self-Worth: Around this person, I increasingly feel “not good enough”.
Fear of Reaction: Before sharing news (even good news) or expressing an opinion, I mentally calculate whether it might cause an outburst of anger.
Loss of Self-Worth: Around this person, I increasingly feel “not good enough”.
Accountability: I feel obligated to account for every minute spent or every penny, even if it involves my own resources.
Isolation: It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to see friends or family because the other person directly or indirectly (through insults or manipulation) restricts it.
Privacy Intrusion: My devices, email, or personal belongings are checked without my consent under the guise of “trust” or “care”.
Isolation: It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to see friends or family because the other person directly or indirectly (through insults or manipulation) restricts it.
Privacy Intrusion: My devices, email, or personal belongings are checked without my consent under the guise of “trust” or “care”.
Physical Discomfort: During arguments, the other person may swing at me, break things, push me, or prevent me from leaving the room.
No Right to Say “No”: My refusals (regarding sex, assistance, or changes in plans) are ignored or punished through silence, insults, or coercion.
Threats: I receive threats directed at myself, children, or pets, or threats that the person will harm themselves if I do not do as requested.
No Right to Say “No”: My refusals (regarding sex, assistance, or changes in plans) are ignored or punished through silence, insults, or coercion.
Threats: I receive threats directed at myself, children, or pets, or threats that the person will harm themselves if I do not do as requested.
RESULTS: Marking even a single item with “yes, this applies to me” indicates that the safety balance in your relationship has been disrupted. Violence does not strictly mean physical bruises—it is a system of control that deprives you of your agency.
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